Setting limits in childhood is an action that parents often do, but other adults can do it too. They fulfill the purpose of organizing children’s responses and, in particular, providing benchmarks.
Saying “no” is essential on many occasions, and it is recommended that saying this be accompanied by a brief explanation of why we are doing it. As the years pass and children grow, these limits vary in scale, proportion, and also in the different mechanisms that determine them.
The limits in childhood: a useful tool for child development
because I’m saying
“Because I’m telling you” is a phrase deeply rooted in parenting, but it ‘s possible that it doesn’t have much space at the moment unless repeated explanations haven’t yielded the expected result.
In that sense, let’s say, for example – because I say I’m your mom or dad, and as I’m responsible for your care, I don’t think it’s appropriate for you to do that or go that way – it can be helpful.
In an opinion article written by Josep Cornellá i Canals, cited by the Spanish Association of Pediatrics, it is highlighted that:
By setting limits, do you learn?
By setting limits, do you learn? … And if so, who teaches them? There may not be a single answer. Sometimes a parent’s record of how their friends or other family members set boundaries, as well as a gentle or traumatic memory of childhood times, can serve as a guide for what to do and what not to do.
Limits as self-esteem generators
Setting boundaries – when it takes place within a framework of love and patience – promotes self-esteem. At the same time, it can be said that when children are subjected to tantrums and tantrums, this is usually how they call for a limit.
In addition, the way tantrums are processed in childhood can become a mirror in which they can see themselves in the face of difficulties.
Limits in childhood: healthy or not
In this sense, we could say that there are healthy limits and others that are not. It is certainly healthy limits that are in a position to lead to a satisfactory result.
- Setting limits in childhood is clearly an act of love, as when, for example, we give children a vaccine recommended by a professional.
- It is essential not to lose our temper when we have to set a boundary, as anger or the altered state does not allow us to have a good perspective, let alone offer it.
- Focus on no more than two issues when it comes to setting a threshold in order not to lose effectiveness.